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I have heard this refrain so many times where girls and boys and all the PYT’s and their counterparts have hinged relationships and friendships and all kind of such thing on sharing. It is a word which has been bandied along umpteen numbers of times. But what actually is sharing? Share actually is division of something. My share of the pie. The ubiquitous share of a company which is also called equity.
Sharing also means to partake into, experience, enjoy with others. However when you talk of sharing can you actually do it. Before I doubt on sharing which is followed today, let me tell you what I believe sharing is. Sharing for me is not merely telling anyone about an event or what happened or what you feel. I told you so shared with you!! No sharing for me means communication which is from both the sides. And not just exchange of words but getting involved. Very important sharing involves emotions and total involvement of two people. And sharing to me means fearlessness. Being true that what you have spoken and what you respond won’t affect the relationship. It means freedom where you are free to express your thoughts which would not be construed in any other way. Sharing requires understanding and depth of relationship so strong that it is unbreakable. It requires a strength of character and strong belief in each other. Also assuredness that if someone is feeling bad you have the capability to make them understand and also malleable enough to understand and adapt.
I believe you cannot share with anybody and if you are lucky, with one or two. In today’s world you are diplomatic with everybody. That’s good and should be so. Today sharing in the fast internet world, is like downloading it to someone. The data downloads on the system and it does not respond, at most if it is a file which is pre-programmed to play a song, plays a song. The same happens when you share. I was feeling down and s/he did this to me. The other person listens to it and then plays the expected tune of click-click,very-bad, oh darling this is not fair. Nothing sweet-heart it would all be good and then blah-blah-blah and then bye-bye.
I have heard this refrain so many times where girls and boys and all the PYT’s and their counterparts have hinged relationships and friendships and all kind of such thing on sharing. It is a word which has been bandied along umpteen numbers of times. But what actually is sharing? Share actually is division of something. My share of the pie. The ubiquitous share of a company which is also called equity.
Sharing also means to partake into, experience, enjoy with others. However when you talk of sharing can you actually do it. Before I doubt on sharing which is followed today, let me tell you what I believe sharing is. Sharing for me is not merely telling anyone about an event or what happened or what you feel. I told you so shared with you!! No sharing for me means communication which is from both the sides. And not just exchange of words but getting involved. Very important sharing involves emotions and total involvement of two people. And sharing to me means fearlessness. Being true that what you have spoken and what you respond won’t affect the relationship. It means freedom where you are free to express your thoughts which would not be construed in any other way. Sharing requires understanding and depth of relationship so strong that it is unbreakable. It requires a strength of character and strong belief in each other. Also assuredness that if someone is feeling bad you have the capability to make them understand and also malleable enough to understand and adapt.
I believe you cannot share with anybody and if you are lucky, with one or two. In today’s world you are diplomatic with everybody. That’s good and should be so. Today sharing in the fast internet world, is like downloading it to someone. The data downloads on the system and it does not respond, at most if it is a file which is pre-programmed to play a song, plays a song. The same happens when you share. I was feeling down and s/he did this to me. The other person listens to it and then plays the expected tune of click-click,very-bad, oh darling this is not fair. Nothing sweet-heart it would all be good and then blah-blah-blah and then bye-bye.
Actual sharing starts after this. Maybe you comfort someone and try to understand from all angles. Have a good conversation and involve all emotions and be fearless to reprimand and be humbled too. Well in today’s world it would actually mean end of sharing. People come to download stuff to you....
Also it’s very difficult to achieve and most important to revive. Recently I was told you can share everything to me but cut out the rancor and complaints and I am ready to share everything. But if I cut my emotions off, if I have to talk with pre-conditions it’s not sharing. It’s all about telling then. But the person whom I shared with everything, I rather be quiet and not go back to telling. I would rather share or keep it to myself.
Anyways I have posted this blog and again believe it’s telling. May become a partial sharing if I get honest opinion of people who read it…..
4 comments:
sharing....very subjective.
every person has there own world of sharing things, thoughts and whatever, and thats how certain relationships r graded, defined.
Sharing is visible invisible, defined and undefined and has all that base that u have stated. U dont meet or sit down to explain things to anyone but still its shared, just not the words but every inch of a feeling is shared.
Ajaa
various people have various intepretation of sharing ... share no doubt has been misunderstood as common ... we share same ideas same understanding same roofs same worries and on on and on... then sharing is also understood as listening and expressing... as long as the reaction to ones expression is not harmful people tend to acknowledge or share... but the real essence of sharing is reaching the same level of mindset... else we can speak convey listen and be happy about it...
Rishi
P.S we share same blogs :)
we already had our argument on this...
i believe that if i have decided that i have to share it with someone..and i want to share it with one special person..mom, dad, siblings, partner, friend..the work is done..
saying and getting feedback however genuine doesn't matter to me..
when i share things with you, i can tell beforhand what your words will be..word for word..because i know you that much..
it is my intention to share..and share it with you..or anyone that is importnat..
yes..it is not expressing that is sharing..but for me the intention to do so..
what the other person says or does depends on his/her frame of mind at that moment..but for me, my sharing is done..because i wanted to share my joy, my grief, my achievement, my failure with that one person..and i did..and if i took that trust, that confidence to go ahaed and say it, it's pre decided that i don't really care about what or how that person will react..if i have shared, i have..
know you don't agree to it..but..yeeh..that's what i feel..
If sharing was that as trusting something and just telling then why would one need human beings..
It can be a stone a wall which you trust enough to say things...
Thing you are saying is that sharing requires a patient listening more than saying...
But it also needs feralessness to accept the feedback...
Which only Human can give... The courage to give feedback is where trust comes in...
And its not only words which communicate...
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